I'm half Japanese, what do I do?!

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I am a super self-conscious half Japanese kid. I feel a lot of nervousness about living in Japan, even though I was born and raised here, because I feel like I am different from Japanese people, but really want to make friends and get along with them. Does anyone have any tips? 
Matt Watson Matt Watson, Living in Japan

Answered 6 months ago

I am a foreigner here in Japan and it always causes more trouble that its worth. I feel like people blame me for so many things that aren't my fault, especially on public transportation. So, I can relate a little.

I am sorry you are having a tough time. I don't know how old you are or what kind of background you have, but I can tell you one thing, you are different, and that's a good thing. Seriously. You probably feel like you are trapped and do not belong to either side, Japanese or what ever the other half is. But you should start by thinking that you belong to both. 

I also agree with Sosuke. Meetup is a great place to meet people. Also, if you are in school or work, try and meet people though them. And you don't have to 'like' or even 'get along with them.' Just meet some new people and accept them for who they are, and they will accept you for who you are. Hopefully, if you don't stay friends with them for ever, you will meet some other new people through them. There are also other online places to meet people. Even Craigslist.org has a section for people just looking to make friends.

Also, there is always the hanging outside of a Convini and striking up conversations with random people. This is especially fun in the summer. People may be drunk and are usually friendly, but the best part is that you have no obligation to these people. You don't have to worry about being rejected by them or not getting along with them. There are not friends.

Lastly, if you are still feeling alone, scared, worried, nervous, there is always the option to see a professional therapist. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. And, in Japan, it's super cheep, especially if you speak Japanese. If you are still feeling that you cannot cope with the world alone, a therapist is an excellent stepping stone and a great way to help get your life in order.

Regardless of what you choose to do, as someone who completely understands how you feel, I sincerely wish you the best of luck.


Sosuke Kimura Sosuke Kimura, Living in Japan

Answered 6 months ago

Hi, it is a difficult question to answer.
Hub Japan is mainly dedicated to travelers who come to Japan from overseas, so you may not be able to get many responses.
Below is my personal opinion.

# I could not quite get the nuance of "kid", so my comments are written on the assumption that you are a maturity. I am sorry if my assumption is wrong.

This does not limit to half-Japanese people, but the fastest way to make friends is to belong to a community. Is there any group activities in your neighborhood? You would be able to find out if you ask your local government office or search of Google.
It seems like you speak English so international circles might be a good idea. In such international circles, people who want to communicate in English (no matter if they are Japanese or not) gather. Your English skill and being a half Japanese will rather be a strength in the community.

Using services like Meetup would be a great idea, too.

To expand community is hard to even if it is Japanese to Japanese. There are not many places allows us to make new friends.

I am sorry that I could not give specific advice.

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